So hard to accept the world and also not having expectation

I have learnt in life that ACCEPTING the way things and people are is the best way in life. What I mean by this acceptance is not a reactive and/or passive acceptance of 'giving up' and 'tolerating' them; but this acceptance of the situation and people is a very pro-active way. Meaning just accept the way they are and then look for what you could do to make things happen the way you want them to be, without being worried or getting angry about it.

However it is not an easy thing to do. I requires a lot of courage and yes, I mean courage and NOT tolerance, patience or other such virtues. I say that because when situation, things and people are not the way you want or expect them to be you start worrying or getting angry and at such time you need to have patience and tolerance and come from a feeling of 'All is well'. However that is easier said than done and hence I have used the word 'courage' which as I have learnt is the virtue by which you continue to do the right actions despite the presence of fear (worry, anger etc.); without courage having tolerance and/or patience is not possible.

I am writing this as over the week end things happened at home and then I started sulking, worrying, making the situation and people associated with the situation wrong. And despite of discussing the same at Pathshala and lecturing people that in such situation we much bring 'Forgiveness' to the fore i.e. forgive others, forgive self and then recommitt to the right and just ways, I could not follow the dictum myself and have created scenes and 'drama' at home.

So I am following the dictum now and 'accepting' the situation as 'all is well' and forgive others (whom I was considering responsible for the mess), forgiving myself for creating the drama and recommitting myself for loving, caring, accepting and patient person.

Lastly I feel that all this non acceptance occurs mainly due to 'Expecting' and in life when you think you are caring for and giving a lot to others, you start expecting from them in equal measure. Following the saying 'नेकी कर, दरिया में डाल' ( Do good and then forget it ) is not easy to follow and surprsingly is more difficult with the near and dear ones (NADO). In fact with NADOs you do the most and hence expect the most.

I recommit to the virtues of ACCEPTANCE and NOT EXPECTING, while having love, care and forgiveness in heart.