I would like to repeat that more I live life, the more I am convinced of how to make best of relationships and hence life, is by using three words mantra "Forgiveness, Love and Patience". In Hindi "Kshama, Prem aur Dhiraj". I have recently resolved quite a few conflicts including my internal ones with this mantra.
Also I have learnt that 'Angels and Demons" (Devta aur Rakshas) are there inside each human being, and at different times they keep showing up, some times angels win and some times demons, who ever becomes the winner the person acts accordingly.
Further I have realized that the lack of equanimity causes a continuous resentment against some thing, some one or some group or some incident; when it is directed outwards and causes Regrets when it is directed inwards. The best way to deal with this is to use 'forgiveness' mantra towards others as well as self. Like the mantra the Jainism "Kshama Veerasya Bhushanam" (Forgiveness is the ornament of Brave; meaning only Brave can have forgiveness as some thing they could show off, as they have the capability to take revenge, but still choose to forgive). Corollary is that it takes a lot of courage to forgive. And I have realized this dictum and have been able to share with lot many and every one was touched, moved and inspired by it.
Lastly the previous week was Diwali week, when I achieved a lot even after under going tremendous stress. One it was the festive mood, but again my doubting nature caused some stress and then I found my co-worker cheating on company time sheets and status reports etc. However I overcame these by using the latest mantra of the Landmark seminar "This is it and I am satisfied with that". In fact working in conjuction with previous landmark mantra of "empty and meaningless" it produced phenomenal results for me. I also used magnanimity on Friday and converted the working scene in to a joy.
Thanks to Landmark and Jainism, I am enjoying life truly.
Monday, November 3, 2008
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Another visit and conference completed
I am writing again after a long time. I guess I just got turned off due to losing a big post in March 2008.
This year has been especially hectic; may be bacause as they say, if your new year day was hectic, then your all year would be hectic.
I have already made many visits to all kinds of places; more on that later. At this time, I have just been back from NY/NJ and Philadelphia visit of 6 days. During this time had 11 meetings; with 7 prospects, 2 old clients and 2 personal. Besides attended Clinical Outsourcing World - Americas conference. On personal front been with Ashu, Vandana and Paharia family.
The whole trip had been quite busy, very economical and at a leisure pace unlike my usual visits. Main learnings/enforcement of old ones:
- Old clients are an important source of business.
- New prospects must be pursued with gusto
- Relationships do matter and must be nurtured well
- If I consider some thing well, it is well.
- What matters is Empowering Context - All else is 'meaning'.
After coming back, I have really enjoyed family, despite having some anxious moments. Also learnt that jealousy is quite inherent in nature and I could get purturbed about nothing or even of most insignificant things.
Osho's lectures brought in completely new perspectives about the concept of 'service' and also Krodh, Moh and Lobh. The last one includes Kaam. Have brought the CDs from Ashu and must be listened in to soon.
So much for the day.............
This year has been especially hectic; may be bacause as they say, if your new year day was hectic, then your all year would be hectic.
I have already made many visits to all kinds of places; more on that later. At this time, I have just been back from NY/NJ and Philadelphia visit of 6 days. During this time had 11 meetings; with 7 prospects, 2 old clients and 2 personal. Besides attended Clinical Outsourcing World - Americas conference. On personal front been with Ashu, Vandana and Paharia family.
The whole trip had been quite busy, very economical and at a leisure pace unlike my usual visits. Main learnings/enforcement of old ones:
- Old clients are an important source of business.
- New prospects must be pursued with gusto
- Relationships do matter and must be nurtured well
- If I consider some thing well, it is well.
- What matters is Empowering Context - All else is 'meaning'.
After coming back, I have really enjoyed family, despite having some anxious moments. Also learnt that jealousy is quite inherent in nature and I could get purturbed about nothing or even of most insignificant things.
Osho's lectures brought in completely new perspectives about the concept of 'service' and also Krodh, Moh and Lobh. The last one includes Kaam. Have brought the CDs from Ashu and must be listened in to soon.
So much for the day.............
Saturday, March 8, 2008
Last few weeks...........
Well here I am again and this time so soon...within a day's gap.
Life has been quite hectic off late. Have 3 major priorities in life right now a) Business (Aagami Inc.) b) Kids education (Aayami's college search and Aagam's grades) and 3) Household management - putting together furniture, buying new car etc.
Well here are the highlights:
a) at Business
- Closed two minor orders for clinical research. Interestingly both have come in Aagami name versus the partner name.
- Attended iBIO IndEx to meet many interesting people.
- Submitted at least 6 different proposals in Clinical, PreClinical and also in Manufacturing; hoping to close at least 3-4.
- Long stalled funding in the largest project so far, started humming again; hopefully this project will also see the completion.
- Finalized the travel plan for March visits to NY/NJ and SFO area for business.
- Received at least 5 appointments; 3 good ones for the business trips in March.
b) For kids Education:
- Had various general life ideas - especially father-child discussion - cordially with both kids.
- Completely planned a late February Iowa education trip and executed it well. All the family has started having some clarity on the college education front.
- Planned a major Campus travel tour with Aayami on West and East coast during her Spring break from March 30th till April 5th.
- Aagam performed in his school's multi-cultural show; by dancing in group of 16 Indian kids; a dance based on Indian movies' music and choreographed by kids themselves.
Life has been quite hectic off late. Have 3 major priorities in life right now a) Business (Aagami Inc.) b) Kids education (Aayami's college search and Aagam's grades) and 3) Household management - putting together furniture, buying new car etc.
Well here are the highlights:
a) at Business
- Closed two minor orders for clinical research. Interestingly both have come in Aagami name versus the partner name.
- Attended iBIO IndEx to meet many interesting people.
- Submitted at least 6 different proposals in Clinical, PreClinical and also in Manufacturing; hoping to close at least 3-4.
- Long stalled funding in the largest project so far, started humming again; hopefully this project will also see the completion.
- Finalized the travel plan for March visits to NY/NJ and SFO area for business.
- Received at least 5 appointments; 3 good ones for the business trips in March.
b) For kids Education:
- Had various general life ideas - especially father-child discussion - cordially with both kids.
- Completely planned a late February Iowa education trip and executed it well. All the family has started having some clarity on the college education front.
- Planned a major Campus travel tour with Aayami on West and East coast during her Spring break from March 30th till April 5th.
- Aagam performed in his school's multi-cultural show; by dancing in group of 16 Indian kids; a dance based on Indian movies' music and choreographed by kids themselves.
So much for now.
Friday, March 7, 2008
Just Like that
Today again I am sharing my thoughts after a long gap. But I have decided not to say any thing other than just these few words.
These days I am getting just too moody. Easily feeling hurt, getting deactivated from life and in general shut down very easily. Are these the signs of getting older, helpless, less vigor or what? I need to pick up on life and just move on. There is just too much to do and very little time. Like I have been repeating the saying that "I am the slave of my ambitions".
Any way so much for today. See you here again soon.
These days I am getting just too moody. Easily feeling hurt, getting deactivated from life and in general shut down very easily. Are these the signs of getting older, helpless, less vigor or what? I need to pick up on life and just move on. There is just too much to do and very little time. Like I have been repeating the saying that "I am the slave of my ambitions".
Any way so much for today. See you here again soon.
Monday, February 11, 2008
First post of New Year - 2008
I have come to express myself here after a gap of over 2 months now. A lot has happened during this time.
- Closed a new business assignment with Drug Device company.
- Went to India with family for a whirl wind trip of 2 weeks; further details later
- Went to Bay Area for a week immediately after coming back from India, Jan 7 - 13; attended J P Morgan, Customer visits and attended EPPIC biannual conference
- Attended Landmark - Velocity Seminar sessions on Jan 16th, Jan 30th, Feb 6th.
- Attended Kellogg's biotech event on Jan 19th
- Went to LA for 5th weekend of Partnership Exploration Course and then prospects visits, Jan 26 - 29
- Went to Midland MI, Feb 3 - 5
Hence life has been really hectic and I got a bit overwhelmed with all the activities and attending so many conferences, sessions & courses and making so many visits. Hence have decided to take this week a bit easy.
I resolve to take the stock of situation first by noting down all the action items from all the meetings; then start completing them one by one after prioritizing. These actions must be done during this week.
Oh, Yes during this time, I have also read a wonderful book by Robin Sharma - "The Monk who sold his Ferrari"; its an amazingly simple, concise and yet full Life Transforming principles. The most surprising thing is that this was suggested to me by a Jain monk - Shri Veersagar Maharaj.
Other books on agenda are "The Secret" and "The Gift".
- Closed a new business assignment with Drug Device company.
- Went to India with family for a whirl wind trip of 2 weeks; further details later
- Went to Bay Area for a week immediately after coming back from India, Jan 7 - 13; attended J P Morgan, Customer visits and attended EPPIC biannual conference
- Attended Landmark - Velocity Seminar sessions on Jan 16th, Jan 30th, Feb 6th.
- Attended Kellogg's biotech event on Jan 19th
- Went to LA for 5th weekend of Partnership Exploration Course and then prospects visits, Jan 26 - 29
- Went to Midland MI, Feb 3 - 5
Hence life has been really hectic and I got a bit overwhelmed with all the activities and attending so many conferences, sessions & courses and making so many visits. Hence have decided to take this week a bit easy.
I resolve to take the stock of situation first by noting down all the action items from all the meetings; then start completing them one by one after prioritizing. These actions must be done during this week.
Oh, Yes during this time, I have also read a wonderful book by Robin Sharma - "The Monk who sold his Ferrari"; its an amazingly simple, concise and yet full Life Transforming principles. The most surprising thing is that this was suggested to me by a Jain monk - Shri Veersagar Maharaj.
Other books on agenda are "The Secret" and "The Gift".
Saturday, December 8, 2007
New learnings
I am back after 2 weeks. After the Thanks Giving weekend completely immersed myself to prepare for Los Angeles trip starting from Dec 1st for 4 days. Took good number of appointments and kept working on other work and family related issues.
Also on Nov 28th Wednesday started Velocity Seminar at Landmark center in Chicago. The first session was really good and we learned that we could not only produce results but also do so better and faster i.e with velocity. Mike Dilbeck my co-participant in Introduction Leaders program is leading the seminar and is doing a great job.
Also I am sharing the ride from Naperville to Chicago with Dr. Vikram Desai and Carol Anderson. Hence the seminar and Landmark actually starts from 5:30 pm and lasts until 11:00 pm. This way we have converted the problem of driving almost 3 hours in to an opportunity of reviewing the work and learning more.
During that week I worked on getting the Consulting work from Kurve Technologies and also Scynexis. I am happy to report that on Dec 7 we have closed the deal with Kurve technologies and have their assignment.
Also that week I realized that in LifeSciences fields I am still learning. We have made a big mistake in one of the assignments received from BIG biotech. And have started working to fix that.
After the hectic start last week, completed it by participating in 4th week end of Partnership Exploration program at Los Angeles. Some learnings from that are:
- Transformation is momentous while change is a function of time.
- Transformation occurs in nothing i.e. where in there is no opinion on the subject; while change is to make some thing better, faster, more i.e. fixing or increasing or decreasing it.
- Hence if you make any thing or any one wrong, you can not transform that.
- Most of inauthenticity in relationships are caused by 'broken agreements' (which are our expectations/shoulds/cultural or societal view points and not necessarily the agreements others made to us or we made). So either we clean up these 'broken agreements' or suffer.
- The 'Broken Agreements' can be cleaned up by forgiving others and then forgiving ourselves. That too powerfully i.e. accepting them as they are and accepting ourselves as we are and then looking to see what BEST can we do in given circumstances to ACHIEVE what we WANT in life.
- There are 3 categories of conversations 1) Some things we already say - either say now or have said before 2) some things that we don't say but is said by others in the extended originating circle and 3) something which is uninvented - this is not and has not been said by us or others in our extended originating circle. Category 3 has never happened before and not even in the mind. It happens (get invented) in the moment when it is said.
- The course work which we need to do in this course is not for the course but its for our life. I must do it not only for me but for my family and community of 20 people whom I will transform in the process.
Finally we learned about the fifth field that has not yet existed, not even invented, there is nothing in it i.e. no conversation has arisen in it. It exists only in the moment it's created. In all the four fields of conversations - Mother-Child, Father-Child, Playmate-Sibling and Admired-Admirer there is one young person who needs to taken care of, provided for or admired of etc. In the fifth field both are adults as a possibility. What constitutes the conversation in this field is EMPOWERMENT. We start living in the world of our own design which states "I am empowered by every thing you do and say, and I am for your empowerment. And I am empowered by that." We are inventing this fifth field of conversation in this course. We may not even live to see it flourish, but that's the future we are standing for - for the world.
After the course had a good meeting with Mr. And Mrs. Ravi Achar. A very nice couple and good people; looks like I could work with them. Next day Monday was hectic with 4 meetings in Irvine and then some discussion with Gora. Tuesday also had two meeting in Torrance and Willow Brook and then I flew back to Chicago, which was hit by a snow storm, but luckily did not affect my flight.
The remaining week went in to recovering, attending 2nd and very powerful session of Velocity seminar, where in I have created the project of achieving $10 Million target of Aagami revenue by February 20th, 2007. Although it looks next to impossible now, but that is the fun of it i.e. I will have to really play full out for meeting the target.
After that just wound up the week by completing the work started in the week and also taking care of Genentech and other such assignment. As stated earlier we signed up with a new company Kurve Technologies for bringing them investors or partner for their technology.
The possibility I have created for my project is Freedom, Contribution and a clearing for full self expression.
Also on Nov 28th Wednesday started Velocity Seminar at Landmark center in Chicago. The first session was really good and we learned that we could not only produce results but also do so better and faster i.e with velocity. Mike Dilbeck my co-participant in Introduction Leaders program is leading the seminar and is doing a great job.
Also I am sharing the ride from Naperville to Chicago with Dr. Vikram Desai and Carol Anderson. Hence the seminar and Landmark actually starts from 5:30 pm and lasts until 11:00 pm. This way we have converted the problem of driving almost 3 hours in to an opportunity of reviewing the work and learning more.
During that week I worked on getting the Consulting work from Kurve Technologies and also Scynexis. I am happy to report that on Dec 7 we have closed the deal with Kurve technologies and have their assignment.
Also that week I realized that in LifeSciences fields I am still learning. We have made a big mistake in one of the assignments received from BIG biotech. And have started working to fix that.
After the hectic start last week, completed it by participating in 4th week end of Partnership Exploration program at Los Angeles. Some learnings from that are:
- Transformation is momentous while change is a function of time.
- Transformation occurs in nothing i.e. where in there is no opinion on the subject; while change is to make some thing better, faster, more i.e. fixing or increasing or decreasing it.
- Hence if you make any thing or any one wrong, you can not transform that.
- Most of inauthenticity in relationships are caused by 'broken agreements' (which are our expectations/shoulds/cultural or societal view points and not necessarily the agreements others made to us or we made). So either we clean up these 'broken agreements' or suffer.
- The 'Broken Agreements' can be cleaned up by forgiving others and then forgiving ourselves. That too powerfully i.e. accepting them as they are and accepting ourselves as we are and then looking to see what BEST can we do in given circumstances to ACHIEVE what we WANT in life.
- There are 3 categories of conversations 1) Some things we already say - either say now or have said before 2) some things that we don't say but is said by others in the extended originating circle and 3) something which is uninvented - this is not and has not been said by us or others in our extended originating circle. Category 3 has never happened before and not even in the mind. It happens (get invented) in the moment when it is said.
- The course work which we need to do in this course is not for the course but its for our life. I must do it not only for me but for my family and community of 20 people whom I will transform in the process.
Finally we learned about the fifth field that has not yet existed, not even invented, there is nothing in it i.e. no conversation has arisen in it. It exists only in the moment it's created. In all the four fields of conversations - Mother-Child, Father-Child, Playmate-Sibling and Admired-Admirer there is one young person who needs to taken care of, provided for or admired of etc. In the fifth field both are adults as a possibility. What constitutes the conversation in this field is EMPOWERMENT. We start living in the world of our own design which states "I am empowered by every thing you do and say, and I am for your empowerment. And I am empowered by that." We are inventing this fifth field of conversation in this course. We may not even live to see it flourish, but that's the future we are standing for - for the world.
After the course had a good meeting with Mr. And Mrs. Ravi Achar. A very nice couple and good people; looks like I could work with them. Next day Monday was hectic with 4 meetings in Irvine and then some discussion with Gora. Tuesday also had two meeting in Torrance and Willow Brook and then I flew back to Chicago, which was hit by a snow storm, but luckily did not affect my flight.
The remaining week went in to recovering, attending 2nd and very powerful session of Velocity seminar, where in I have created the project of achieving $10 Million target of Aagami revenue by February 20th, 2007. Although it looks next to impossible now, but that is the fun of it i.e. I will have to really play full out for meeting the target.
After that just wound up the week by completing the work started in the week and also taking care of Genentech and other such assignment. As stated earlier we signed up with a new company Kurve Technologies for bringing them investors or partner for their technology.
The possibility I have created for my project is Freedom, Contribution and a clearing for full self expression.
Friday, November 23, 2007
Thanks Giving 2007
Today is the Black Friday - the so called Friday after the Thanks Giving holiday in the United States. On this day most Stores give huge discounts for early shoppers and most Americans take benefit of this. The shopping on the day after Thanks Giving i.e. Black Friday is also taking shape as a modern American tradition.
Also in a strange turn this year again we decided to go for a long drive on Thanks Giving day, that too on the whim, absolutely without a plan. However this year it was just to the Chicago Down Town albeit thru newly built or unexplored highways like I-355 extension to I-80 and then thru I-57 North. These were the highways we traveled for the first time. It was an interesting ride of about 150 miles (insted of straight route of 80-90 miles) and we enjoyed it thru talks and sight seeing from the Car windows.
Last year we went to Quad Cities on Illinois-Iowa border and also without any planning. That was about 250 Miles trip and also was completely unplanned on the whim.
Any how some other initiatives I have worked on this year are - Nagpur First, Hindi teaching and Support to Pusla Jain temple renovation-cum-expansion.
Nagpur First is a group of Nagpur related enthusiasts, who are coming together to support and contribute in Nagpur becoming truly Global City very soon. This is being achieved thru various initiatives. We have listed all the details at http://www.nagpurfirst.org/
Hindi teaching has been revived this year by finding a new teacher - Ajay Jain, who has taken it up really sincerely and is teaching at the Jain Temple in Chicago. He has already taken 7 classes, where in I could only participate in 3 of them. Hopefully during December class on 10th I will be there. Now we have a proper curriculum, the notice gets published in JSMC yahoo group email and number of students have increased to double digits.
Lastly I have been inspired by the story of Mr. Sharad Bhagwatkar, who is renovating and expanding a Jain temple in his native village of Pusla - 80 Kms from Nagpur. This temple has been built originally in 1878 and was in not so good condition. Although Mr. Bhagwatkar has been a simple accountant in Nagpur Police commissioner's office and was not working since 1993, due to major accident, which kept him bed ridden for 4 years and another 2 years walking with stick. But now due his Will power, tenacity and perseverance he runs marathons, for raising money for the temple. This he had started at the age of 62 in the year 2002 and have so afr completed Mumbai, Chennai, Bangalore, Delhi and Chicago Marathons. I am helping and supporting him and his son Vivek's efforts here amongst Chicago Jain Society. Some day I would like to write a great story of this inspiring gentleman for providing motivation to young people.
Also there are possibilities unfolding with Vivek that I could fulfill my dream of social entrepreneurship at multiple places in Central India. More on that at a later date.
Today I would again like to emphasize the learnings of last year that Forgiveness, Patience and Love (Kshama, Dhiraj aur Prem) are the KEYs to solve all major issues including relationships in life. Also I have realized in last few days that Controlling Anger is most important thing and that's the reason why Jainism says 'Ahimsa Paramo Dharmah' - Non-Violence is the Supreme Religion. As with violence comes from anger.
Also in a strange turn this year again we decided to go for a long drive on Thanks Giving day, that too on the whim, absolutely without a plan. However this year it was just to the Chicago Down Town albeit thru newly built or unexplored highways like I-355 extension to I-80 and then thru I-57 North. These were the highways we traveled for the first time. It was an interesting ride of about 150 miles (insted of straight route of 80-90 miles) and we enjoyed it thru talks and sight seeing from the Car windows.
Last year we went to Quad Cities on Illinois-Iowa border and also without any planning. That was about 250 Miles trip and also was completely unplanned on the whim.
Any how some other initiatives I have worked on this year are - Nagpur First, Hindi teaching and Support to Pusla Jain temple renovation-cum-expansion.
Nagpur First is a group of Nagpur related enthusiasts, who are coming together to support and contribute in Nagpur becoming truly Global City very soon. This is being achieved thru various initiatives. We have listed all the details at http://www.nagpurfirst.org/
Hindi teaching has been revived this year by finding a new teacher - Ajay Jain, who has taken it up really sincerely and is teaching at the Jain Temple in Chicago. He has already taken 7 classes, where in I could only participate in 3 of them. Hopefully during December class on 10th I will be there. Now we have a proper curriculum, the notice gets published in JSMC yahoo group email and number of students have increased to double digits.
Lastly I have been inspired by the story of Mr. Sharad Bhagwatkar, who is renovating and expanding a Jain temple in his native village of Pusla - 80 Kms from Nagpur. This temple has been built originally in 1878 and was in not so good condition. Although Mr. Bhagwatkar has been a simple accountant in Nagpur Police commissioner's office and was not working since 1993, due to major accident, which kept him bed ridden for 4 years and another 2 years walking with stick. But now due his Will power, tenacity and perseverance he runs marathons, for raising money for the temple. This he had started at the age of 62 in the year 2002 and have so afr completed Mumbai, Chennai, Bangalore, Delhi and Chicago Marathons. I am helping and supporting him and his son Vivek's efforts here amongst Chicago Jain Society. Some day I would like to write a great story of this inspiring gentleman for providing motivation to young people.
Also there are possibilities unfolding with Vivek that I could fulfill my dream of social entrepreneurship at multiple places in Central India. More on that at a later date.
Today I would again like to emphasize the learnings of last year that Forgiveness, Patience and Love (Kshama, Dhiraj aur Prem) are the KEYs to solve all major issues including relationships in life. Also I have realized in last few days that Controlling Anger is most important thing and that's the reason why Jainism says 'Ahimsa Paramo Dharmah' - Non-Violence is the Supreme Religion. As with violence comes from anger.
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