Double whammy? STILL get up and Go - You have not failed until you can get up one more time than the times you fall

Today I had double or shall I say triple whammy right in the morning; when I saw my children doing poorly in their school academically and then as soon as I reached office I heard the voicemail from a client that we have lost a major business opportunity on which I have been working on for over a year. I was already thinking 'negative' and the loss of business opportunity really sent me to pits.

However I decided to go through it and take the total responsibility of the world, as it occurs to me. My dear wife tried her level best to console me and also the collaborator who is partly responsible for the loss of opportunity also did his best. Certainly their consoling words helped but ultimately what got me back up is that I continued to take actions and kept myself totally busy. In fact I completed many tasks today than most days at work.

So the learning again got reemphasized that in life you are responsible for the world as it occurs to you. Also one has not failed until he can get up just one more time than the number of times he falls.

The great thing is that instead getting in to blame game and making others and the world wrong about what was happening to me, I took charge and took full responsibility. Hence completed a conference call, another conference call, wished coworker Happy Birthday, called up a CEO for new consulting assignment, coordinated for a lady to learn conversational Hindi, went through another conference call on a current consulting assignment, where in almost finalized a visit to India towards end of the month, had one more call with a CSO and Board member of several Pharma and Biotech firms, took stock of Bay area initiatives Aagami has taken, added several companies to that list, confirmed booking summer vacation tickets to India, talked to a current customer, who despite being unhappy about slow progress of his project assured of giving a new project, coordinated his meeting with my friend visiting from India, wrote email for business opportunity fulfilling them with latest collected information and sent several reminder emails to Indian companies for investment opportunities working on. All this besides handling other general emails and phone calls. Wow!!! Now that's called an action packed day.

Lage raho Pappu bhai...........................

my Impossible Promise

Today is the first day of March 2009 of common era and I am here to share and declare my 'Imposiible Promise' thru my Blog with the world. My impossible promise is that by 2030 all children in the world believe that imagination creates limitless possibilities and all dreams can be achieved and realized.

So Imagine, Dream and Realize.

Earlier I was confronted by the choice of the word 'impossible' in the promise, but today after sharing it with my Landmark Education 'Power and Contribution' course group I have truly realized that 'impossible' does mean 'I M Possible'. In fact in my own life I have achieved so many of seemingly impossible dreams in very short time. One example being going around the world, which I had declared around the age of 12-13 to a close friend and made a bet with him. This caused that dream of my going around the world come in to existence in time and space and by the time I was 25 I had already gone around the world at least once and since then have done in many more times, and now it has become so routine that I do not even think about it.

So here by I make the declaration of my promise again "By 2030 all children believe that imagination creates limitless possibilities and all dreams can be achieved and realized." Wow!!! There is a certain power in writing this. I frees one from the concerns and also the enormity of the task.

Again today during our conference call with the group there were many sharings and learnings. What stayed with me till now is that 'In future the competition among groups, nations and/or communities transforms in to Cooperation or more like Coopetition i.e. Coperative competition, which means that they compete not to defeat or eliminate others but to excel themselves or 'to push the envelope to the next level' for creating new records of human achievements.

Also the Militaries and armies of today transform in to natural disaster management forces, instead being the creator of disasters for 'enemies'. Well that would be such a great world to live in to and I am sure very soon, we will find ourselves living in such a world through coopetition.

Jai Ho!!!

Difference between Intellectual understanding and experiencial understanding

Wow!!! This is a record that I am writing a second post in a day. And I chose it this way, because the topic is a bit different and I did not want to mix the two, although they are similar in nature.

Last weekend I have been preparing for my teaching of Jain religious class . Where in I read that 'intellectually we may understand some thing, but to really know what it is, we need to experience it'. That made me think. After a lot of mulling over, I realized the truthness of the statement. I have always been saying that until one becomes father or at least feels like a father, after seeing his child, one does not 'really' know what it is to be a father. Although one may 'intellectually' understand what it may be like being a father.

This is actually true for most things in life. And different cultures, societies and human experience have said the same thing in different ways. Like the saying in English 'Put yourself in that man's shoes and then find out how he feels'. That's why Mahatma Gandhi favorite hymn was 'Vaishnav jan to taine kahiye, je peed parai jaane re' (means A really religious [pious] person is the one who knows the pain of others).

Hence I have resolved that before giving my opinion or judgements on other person's condition or their actions in a certain situation, I really need to know, what they have gone through. And a certain feelings and aspects of life I would never 'really' know; like being a Mother, Woman, Sister, White Man, Black Man, Mongoloid person or so many other identities people carry. Being a secular person, I must respect all those and accept their uniqueness whole heartedly without judging or evaluating.

'I am responsible for my own world'

What is present for me these days is that we create our own world and live in it. And this world is specifically unique to us and is not necessarily shared with others always.

Well simply it can be explained by saying that what I like, other may hate it. So that thing will be dear to me and if I get it I will be happy. But if the other who dislikes it, gets it, he or she will feel sad or angry. So that thing is 'good' for me but 'bad' for the other. So what is it really. Well as the old Indian saying goes "Sansar Maya hai" the world is but an illusion.

So I have really learnt that in reality the world as it occurs to me is pretty unique to me and its creator is I and only I and no one else. Similarly it is true for each and every individual. Every single person's world is as it occurs to them and it happens based on their thinking to what ever is happening around them, they give it either a 'good' or a 'bad' or a 'neutral' meaning and then the 'world' seems to them like that meaning. Hence they are creator of their 'own world'.

So I have decided that with this learning, I will always endeavor to be HAPPY, always give every thing a 'good' meaning. Completely believe that 'All is well' and 'whatever happens, happens for good'.

With LOVE you can WIN one and all

Today the concept in the TITLE has been reinforced in me by my dear wife. Today Feb 14th is the day of LOVE as is practiced in modern times. During breakfast we were just glancing at the TV in which one commercial about little kid's love to her father made me comment that "Little kids are so nice, if you just love them they will do any thing for you", to which my wife commented "Isn't that true for everyone?".

I immediately realized that it is. We have forgotten to LOVE people because of our own complexes and insecurities; as we feel that if we love others i.e. show our affection or love to them like what we do with children, they will make it mean this and that, it will look strange or bad or good or so and so. Because of all this we all hold back our love to others.

I kept thinking about this incident during the day, it reminded me of another saying of a friend of mine, "I buy people cheap; I just be NICE to them and they generally they do any thing for me." Although the comment sounded a bit funny in the beginning, but has truth in it. If we are nice to people (just love them), they will do any thing for us. I have totally experienced this in life. How TRUE and so simple, but human beings are such complicated beings, that we forget simplests truths of life so easily.

Later when we were having our 'Valentine Lunch', that is I and my wife, the two some, as kids had other plans, I saw a 2 or 3 year old girl having lunch with her family. She was all dressed in Indian clothes with typical Indian make up (bindi etc.) [although Mom was wearing western clothes] and enjoying her lunch with innocent questions about restaurant food to her parents. Seeing her I realized that why it is so easy to love little children and not teens and adults is because of their innocence and purity. We all know that whatever they are saying and doing is what they are thinking and they do not have any complexes or grudges against us. This thought in our mind makes us love them fully without expecting any thing in return. This makes our love to them also pure and genuine.

It would be so wonderful, if we remove our judgements, opinions and ideas about others and just love them for who they are. Well that's where my relationship mantra of FORGIVENESS, TRUST, LOVE & PATIENCE comes in to play.

LOVE to all.

Patience requires TRUST, as Love requires FORGIVENESS

Well, yesterday and today I truly felt that in the 4 words Mantra on Relationship, there are relationships in two pair of them.

I have realized that Patience can not exist until you TRUST that all is well and 'Whatever happens, Happens for the Best'. If there is any deficit at TRUST front then patience will wear thin.

A similar sort of relationship exist between Love and FORGIVENESS, meaning if forgiveness is less than 100% then Love will not be total. And then relationship will not work.

Hence again I would like to reiterate that 4 words mantra of great relationship:

Foregiveness, Trust, Love and Patience will make every relationship perfect.

Also it need to practiced, realized and internalized; not just know and understand intellectually. Intellectual knowledge and understanding does not provide much to human beings, as I could know and understand what it may be like being a mother, but I would never feel or realize it, as I am a man and can never have a baby come out of my own body.

Patience, an essential virtue in life

"Patience is an essential virtue"
I have known this for several decades, yet I find it so hard to practice.

Also this is a fundamental of any great relationship; the fundamentals, which I have learnt myself.

Forgiveness, Trust, Love and Patience.

Earlier I had understood that these four were in that order of preference, but over the week end I have learnt that Patience is as important as Love.

I think, I need to apply these to self too i.e. I need to be patient with myself to practice it.